The Campus "It Girl" Guide to Lasting Friendships and HBCU Sisterhood

by Jayna Renna

The Campus “IT Girl” is more than a look or an aesthetic... it’s a mindset. It’s how you think, how you carry yourself, how you treat your sisters on campus, and how you set the standard for excellence.

We asked Howard’s “IT Girls” about friendship, sisterhood, and the keys to building bonds that last long after graduation.

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What makes someone feel like a sister instead of just a friend?

Micah Leigh: Someone feels like a sister when they are able to call me out on my faults while also making me feel unconditionally understood and safe. 

Faith Veasley: To me, a sister is someone who truly sees me. Someone you can share an unspoken language with, built through genuine understanding, love, and appreciation for who you are as a person. A sister feels like a breath of fresh air, someone who makes even the most chaotic moments feel lighter. 

Any piece advice you would give to new girls on campus looking for friends?

Grace Lloyd: My freshman year, I made it a point to talk to people who gave off good energy in my classes, and I'd message people on social media just to see if they wanted to grab lunch. Some of those small acts of courage turned into my closest friendships now. So don't be afraid to put yourself out there. Reach out to people who seem interesting, chances are they're looking for a friend too. And don't force it! The best friendships happen naturally, so give it time and trust the process.

Ary Alvarez Valdez: Continue to be authentic and those who are meant for you will come to you. 

What makes sisterhood at an HBCU feel different?

Faith Veasley: Sisterhood at an HBCU feels different because we come from similar backgrounds and can relate to one another’s experiences in ways that others may not fully understand. There is a shared understanding of the struggles we face, including navigating spaces where we may feel misunderstood because of our race. We have the opportunity to celebrate ourselves, uplift one another, and grow together as young Black adults. 

Navigating the ups and downs of seeking friendship.

Faith Veasley: Be as open as possible. You’re going to meet people you align with and others you don’t, but don’t get too caught up in the connections that don’t work out. Sometimes, the people who aren’t the right fit are still there to teach you lessons that help you grow into the person you’re meant to be for the people you’re meant to meet.